Relationships with children and Its Implications

The relationships we build with people determine to some extent our being in the world. So I feel it is important to emphasize, in one of the relationships it has a major impact on our lives, as this link is so close, so intimate and so beloved: of parents and children.

In recent years we have been talking about the various methods is important to carry out the methods of discipline and education for children. Some parents are confused and perplexed, not managing to how to maintain a firm stance when disciplining their children.

It seems that the experts are beyond the experience of parenting and that forget, the most common sense, common sense. Some scholars of human behavior talk about the importance of responsibility, others on parenting, some more about the methods and ways of communicating with children.

The reality as I see it, probably all be right, And who can guide us when we feel lost in this way of parenting. However, these techniques or methods that we propose are a few suggestions, not necessarily determine our experience. That is, every father and every mother, need to assess your situation, the characteristics of family environment and the way of being and the behavior patterns of children.

In fact there are no better or worse ways to educate the child depends on the circumstances, the character of the parents, the situation you are facing at present. Also of his personal history as well as ways and means as each conceives of education.

In order to offer our children a quality education and upbringing, we have to have certain aspects that may lead us to achieve this:

A. - Children are not an extension of the parents. They are independent people who feel themselves, who think for themselves and have a personality that stands out from birth.'re Special.

When we do not understand this situation we get frustrated because children do not do things as we want. Definitely not, they're going to do based on what they are and can, according to their age and abilities.

I do not want to misunderstand me, of course, we need to guide them to learn habits and limits, but definitely can not do what I want, need and desire.

B. - Parents are only facilitators of the development of children. This means that they are not our property, that acts of abuse or violence, are not justified by any reason. In addition to that they are people who are in a development process which have to consolidate their self-esteem, self-concept and personality .

If we as parents constantly criticize, instead, to show the way to do something better, then surely we are training children resentful, feeling unable to do something right, moreover, that his personal experience and self-concept will be developed in distorted way.

The skills, abilities and learning, will always be supported on the trial and error. Or, perhaps, did you learn everything the first time? Of course not, also made mistakes, also frustrated, also gave their bailouts, so scolded, and perhaps had to do things a thousand times to Things finally came out, just the what you could do.

C. - Parents have to be an authority for their children. Today, parents seem to have trouble finding ways to discipline, on the one hand, they feel guilty when they call attention, and secondly, the offset a lot of material things to feel happy.

The discipline, boundaries and parental authority over children is not negotiable.

IT IS IMPORTANT to reflect on their ways and means to establish the authority with their children, thus, perhaps, you can "realize" that is what you do is working and what is not in your relationship with them.

No relationship is so significant and important as this wonderful and great value for parents with children. However, the nature of it, at times becomes conflicted and full of disappointments.

How is it, what this little guy, which I live and wakefulness, work will become as irrelevant to me, plus I unleashed the most sublime feelings and sensations, and the most unpleasant as well.

In a way we can deal more with those aspects of our children that make us feel comforted and proud, good parents, but when they unleash feelings like anger, frustration, helplessness, envy, the claim, then we do not like both ... We feel we are the worst parents and estmos doing it very, very, bad ...

Parent-child relationships, like any human relationship, is subject to the conflict. However, the vast majority of parents crave and maintains the expectation that the relationship with their children, should always be harmonious. Big mistake! All parents want their children to be happy.

Of course we all want that happiness, success and victory for them, but that does not mean they have to be with the smile on your face all the time. Sinn However, when we see angry or frustrated, we worry, we become anxious. And what is worse! Todito We lay the blame.

We need to reflect on these aspects that determine the life between parents and children. We require train men and women of good, responsible, capable of coping with robust tools that will touch the world and will be living. Do not lose sight that generations of our children, will be the adults of tomorrow ...

We need to stop encouraging underprivileged children, unable to meet its own obligations, because today's parents have been given the task of resolving all ... For every skill that the child can do and you do it yet, it is becoming a person who does not use its resources and develop them to become skilled Paraquad ...

Solve everything leads us to form spoiled children, who feel they deserve everything, and besides, his character and personality formation, they are flattened ...

Plus it's important to convey our love for them, it also means that often no ...

This is a call to parents to reconsider their ways and means to educate, so that they meet socially with their fair share, educate the children and give children good for society ....

Some of the topics treated in these articles, may affect their findings with regard to human relations issues, if so, write me and if not, well ...

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