My son does not want me after the separation, what I can do?

After the marriage has broken the plan on the custody and visitation of the child of the former couple is set in the Settlement Agreement, the parties to reach an agreement concerning your separation or divorce, or in the Statement of Decision, if no consensus was possible.

Many times there are problems for infringements carried out by one of the parents in relation to the initial plan visits. Before them, the claim before the judge is usually very effective, it may bring certain sanctions for breach of its resolution.

But how do you react when it is your own child who refuses to go through this regime, not wanting any contact with a parent?

The solution in such cases

The first thing to note here is that the parent or parent with whom the child remains in any case could hide behind his refusal to hinder his devotion to his former partner on the appointed day, in the right place and time point.

The law here little or nothing can help. In principle, children should obey their parents and stick to that regime. However, if I had a certain age, it could become more complicated.

The best in these cases is to try to find the reason or reasons why the child may not want to spend time with their other parent. Determine what happens to produce such refusal.

What if a solution is not possible through this route?

When the situation becomes untenable by the continuing refusal of the child may be necessary to bring the matter before the judge. This could solicit the performance of a psychological evaluation of the child, in order to unravel the reasons for their behavior.

In any case it would be advisable to underestimate the feelings of the child, because behind its rejection could be physical abuse or sexual existed suffered while living with the mother, and it may not have notice or suspicion.

On the other hand, may exist in such cases an attitude of emotional manipulation by the other parent to child, to make you very impressionable young age. It is therefore convenient that psychological analysis to rule out any case in point, a phenomenon known as "Parental Alienation Syndrome?. Behind the apparent cooperation, the former may have some hidden agenda.

At other times, if the only reason for this refusal was his discomfort with the other parent, which happens very often for example if I had to stay for long periods away from home, the court may fix the visits by progressively in a brief and limited to first seek to promote closer links and communication between parent and child, leading to greater complicity between the two.

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